Dating is like a sport. You have to do it properly to win. The first date is the most important in the dating scene, and bad ones are comparable to nightmares. They can make you feel like someone is playing a joke on you.
Dating is like a sport. You have to do it properly to win. The first date is the most important in the dating scene, and bad ones are comparable to nightmares. They can make you feel like someone is playing a joke on you.
You've probably heard a bad date story, right? Mostly, things go wrong because one person says or does something they shouldn't have. If you're planning a prospective first date, you've come to the right place. This post will list several things you shouldn't do on the first date.
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Do not be rude to staff
When on your first date, refrain from being rude or acting out on staff members, such as waiters and waitresses. Being harsh to staff is telling of your character, and such behavior will most likely repel your date.
Do not show up Late
First impressions matter a lot. Therefore, you need to make an excellent first impression on your first date. You should never be late on the first date. Plan your schedule accordingly and make sure you arrive at the agreed date spot before she gets there.
Despite bad weather or traffic, it is not gentleman-like to keep a lady waiting. However, this doesn't insinuate that you need to get to the agreed spot hours earlier. Arriving several minutes before the agreed time is okay.
Do not talk about your ex
First dates mainly entail getting to know the other party well. Therefore, the conversation needs to revolve around the two of you. You can also talk about general things, such as your likes and dislikes.
Avoid talking about your ex at all costs. Doing so indicates that you're either bitter or haven't moved on. Once your date sees such red flags, they might never want to see you again.
Not being properly groomed
Before going on your first date, take your time at home getting properly groomed. You not only need to spend a significant amount of time on your outfit but also your face. Freshen up to boost your confidence and never show up to the date looking exhausted.
Additionally, do not be over or underdressed. You might be all she wants but overdoing it with flashy fashionable outfits isn't a suitable move. Moreover, you have to consider the venue of your date because it could influence your outfit choice. You don't want to show up at a venue underdressed.
Do not check your phone constantly
A first date gives you a one-on-one opportunity to learn more about the other person. The proper way to know the other party is by having a meaningful conversation. If you spend your time checking your phone every now and then, however, you'll hardly connect with your date.
Spending time on your phone indicates disinterest, and it gives off a wrong impression. It is a disaster in the making. Besides, if she sees you're constantly on your phone, she might do the same or leave.
Do not be rude or insensitive
The secret to having a successful first date is to be friendly, courteous, kind, and sensitive. If you become intentionally rude to your date, you'll likely give off a wrong impression. It speaks poorly of your character and indicates that you're a temperamental individual. Avoid making disparaging comments on sensitive issues. That's a turn-off.
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Do not swear too much
Although swearing can be humorous in the proper context, do not do it on your first date. Your vocabulary needs to be warm and friendly. Never limit it to offensive language because you will come across as aggressive and rude.
Do not talk over your date
When on your first date, never talk over or for your date. Doing so makes you appear as an extremely rude person. If your date is asked a question, do not answer on their behalf. Additionally, never order food for your date unless they ask you to.
Talking over your date is also very rude. It gives the impression that you don't care about their opinion. You have to make it a two-way conversation. Ask questions about their hobbies and accomplishments. If you only talk about yourself, things might go south.
Conclusion
First dates are crucial parts of the dating journey. As such, there are things that you must avoid doing while at it, including being rude or showing up late. Such behaviors indicate that you're insensitive to your date.
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